Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

About Teen Dating Violence

Teen dating violence is common and affects million of teens in the U.S. each year. It is a type of intimate partner violence between two people in a close relationship. Dating abuse affects people of all ages, backgrounds, and identities; comes in many forms; and can negatively impact future relationships. Forms of abuse include:

Physical | Sexual | Emotional | Cyber | Stalking

Teen dating violence is 100% preventable through programs that: address root causes, shift culture, build skills and promote healthy relationships. Learn more about the facts, warning signs, and resources.

The Facts:

  • 1 in 3 teens in the US will experience physical, sexual, or emotional abuse from someone they’re in a relationship with before they become adults (love is respect)
  • 43% of college women report experiencing violent or abusive dating behaviors (love is respect)
  • Over half of college students say it’s difficult to identify dating abuse (love is respect)
  • Black teens are more likely to experience physical dating violence than their White and Latinx counterparts (Youth Risk Behavior Survey)
  • LGBTQ+ youth are at much greater risk of experiencing intimate partner violence compared to cisgender and heterosexual counterparts (Urban Institute)
  • More than 40% of Native children experience two or more acts of violence by the age of 18 (Children’s Exposure to Violence: A Comprehensive National Survey)
  • 58% of homicides of Asian American and Pacific Islander women were related to intimate partner violence (Asian Pacific Institute on Gender-Based Violence)
  • In a 2013 study of Latinx youth, social support was related to decreased odds of all types of dating violence except for stalking (Dating Violence Among Latino Adolescents (DAVILA) Study)
  • 1 in 4 teens is harassed or abused through technology (Urban Institute)
  • Only 9% of abused teens seek help, and rarely from a parent or teacher (Urban Institute)
  • 52% of teens who experience digital abuse are also physically abused (Urban Institute)

Ten Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship (adapted from OneLove)

  • Intensity: When someone expresses extreme feelings, engages in over-the-top behavior, or rushes the pace of the relationship.
  • Possessiveness: When someone gets upset when you text/hang out with people they feel threatened by, wrongly accusing you of flirting or cheating, stalking.
  • Manipulation: When someone controls your decisions, actions or emotions. They might convince you to do things you aren’t comfortable with, ignoring you until they get their way, or try to influence your feelings.
  • Isolation: When someone keeps you away from friends, family and other people. This may begin slowly with them asking for more one on one time and escalate to demanding you don’t see certain people. If you’re experiencing isolation, you may feel dependent on your partner for love, money, and acceptance.
  • Sabotage: When someone purposely ruins your reputation, achievements, or success. 
  • Belittling: When someone says or does things to make you feel bad about yourself, like name-calling, making rude remarks about people you’re close with, or criticizing you.
  • Guilting: When someone makes you feel responsible for their actions or makes you feel like it’s your job to keep them happy. They may blame you for things that are out of your control.
  • Volatility: When someone has a really strong, unpredictable reaction that makes you feel scared, confused or intimidated. They may overreact to small things, have major mood swings or lose control by getting violent, yelling or threatening you.
  • Deflecting Responsibility: When someone repeatedly makes excuses for their unhealthy behavior. They may blame you or other people for their own actions.
  • Betrayal: When someone is disloyal or acts in an intentionally dishonest way. They may also lie, purposely leave you out, be two-faced, or cheat on you.